You Can Keep Surviving or Start Thriving!



Are you still struggling to be happy, to find that perfect relationship, to make enough money to live a decent life?  Are you battling with how you look, how you feel about yourself? Are you enjoying the struggle?  I know, I ask a lot of questions.  I’m good at asking questions.  Actually I’m great at asking questions.  Being willing to question everything, every belief and even myself has been key to my own happiness and is also the key to your happiness.  As long as you are unwilling to question why you keep struggling, why you just keep making your life hard, nothing will change

You do want change don’t you?  I know you say you do, but do you really?  Are you willing to question everything?  Those beliefs are dear to you, after all you inherited them from your family after they’d been inherited from those before.  Beliefs are precious treasures, guidelines for life, right?  If you agree with that stop reading right now.  Don’t read another word because you’ve already made up your mind that you don’t deserve better, that life is supposed to be hard and that you don’t have the power to do anything about it.  So just move on to the next blog

For those of you who stayed let’s talk about the silliness of survival mindset and being powerless.  Honestly survival is big time over rated.  It stinks.  You can do it, you can make it through just about any horribly trying, challenging thing that you can create or co-create with others.  You are built to survive.  Life does that, cells repair and replace in order to keep the body going.  But surviving isn’t fun or satisfying.  It weighs you down, zaps your energy and wipes the smile right off your face.  So what can you do?

You can Thrive!  Do you know why it’s so hard to rid your garden of weeds?  They know the secret of “thrival” and they do it well.  Life expands to experience more and more of itself, reproducing in it’s own image.  This works equally well for those weeds and those veggies.  The secret is the kind of seed that gets planted. Doesn’t it make sense to set only the highest quality, exactly what you want, kind of seed in the ground? That’s what you get is what you plant so you make sure it’s something you enjoy. 

Life is like those seed.  Your thoughts start the creation motion, then the brain gives you a chemical wash that brings about a feeling or emotion.  That feeling matches that thought and if acted on, you create experience that looks and feels like the building materials used.  There is only energy, thought is the seed.  Feelings are like the soil, water and sun.  If left there whatever is planted or thought and felt, will grow. 

Now you get an idea of why those beliefs are so danged important.  They are the start of your creation.  From those beliefs spring the plants that grow the fruit that you get to harvest or experience as stuff.  Here is where asking questions plays a big role.  When you inquire as to the truth of those beliefs, those creative thoughts and discard the ones that don’t work, never have worked and never will work, you can move into understanding.  You are ready for a new idea, one that actually works.  Gently nudge yourself into the possibility that you really do have power to choose what you experience.  Don’t push it, just play around with it for a moment. 

For one week just play around there.  What if you really did have the power to create your life exactly as you want to experience it?  What would that look like, how would it feel?  In what ways would your life be different.  I’m going to stop here for now, (it’s supposed to be a blog post not a book chapter) and I’ll write more in a bit.  Stay tuned. Oh, you can also grab a copy of one of my books, I suggest you get started with “How To Thrive In A Survival Mindset World”. 

Leave me a comment, let me know how this is working for you and remember.. Just Go Ahead and show Up in All Your Awesomeness!

Be Willing to be Awesome

Lots of people, young and old, don’t step into their awesomeness due to fear of being disliked, made fun of, being called names etc.  I understand how it feels as I’ve spent my life stepping outside the box of norm and having folks feel an obligation to point out to me exactly what was wrong with me.. in their opinion of course. I don’t know that anyone has ever done anything awesome without a few of those nay sayers showing up to tell them why they can’t or shouldn’t do it and why it just will not work.  It’s just how most humans react to someone who is stepping outside the tribal comfort zone.   Now you want more than you’ve got and you are starting to see that everything you have is in the box of normal.  It makes sense that in order to get more than what you already have you have to move outside the space you are already in and do, think, say, embrace something else.  You take those first few steps and BAM! someone shows up to tell you Stop! Don’t do that! It can’t be done!  What do you do?

It’s easy to stay stuck where you are, it’s known and in a way it’s comfortable to you.  You yearn for more, but it’s spooky when you think about what could happen if you quit that job, move out of the relationship, sale that home to start over.  Your awesome isn’t in the known place.. it’s in the next actions, experiences and interactions you make real.  What if you step into your awesome and 1 person ridicules you but 100 applaud and are grateful for your inspiration?

To get you started practicing being outside the box in your awesomeness begin letting go of stuff crammed in the corners and closets of your home.  That’s right, just move through your space and start clearing out what isn’t working for you anymore.  As you clear space notice how you feel with the now empty space.  Do you feel an urge to hurry and fill it up again?  What do you want in that space?  Can you wait for exactly what you want to be there rather than rushing to just fill it with something, anything?

Make an empty space on a book shelf or table in your home.  Place nothing there.  Let it be your “sacred space” for exactly what you want to experience next.  Honor it by giving thanks for what fills it, the potentially of Source.  Hold in your mind’s eye exactly what you want to experience next, let it know there is space for it in your life. 

Always keep that space available for your newest experiences.  Continue clearing out your physical home and your mind / body from litter.  Old thoughts, patterns, feelings that you’ve been stuck in for years can be released and a new experience had.  Notice the discomfort and the fear.  Call it what it is and sit with it for a while.  Where did it come from, what is it connected to? 

Dedicate yourself to your awesomeness!  That’s right, be steadfast in your faithfulness to expressing how awesome you are.  Don’t wait around for others to tell you it’s ok to be awesome, go ahead and Be Awesome.  Take those steps, make those commitments to enjoying yourself fully.

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