As a young girl my mother often reminded us to , “not be offensive, now dear”. Courtesy and kindness were a way of life for her and she taught her children the magic of living this way as well. Perhaps this is why I am shocked when I am confronted with out right rudeness and nasty behavior and or remarks intended to hurt someone.
Recently while sitting in a room I overheard someone say outloud with the intention of being heard and it appeared, hurtful, a remark that included me. For a second I felt a barb then a sadness for this person that they were so angry and hurt that they felt the only way to deal with their pain was to strike out at others.
While it really doesn’t heal the hurt many folks seem to act as if they cause hurt in another their own pain will lessen. It doesn’t work that way. Now what about the person on the intended receiving end? What do you do when these types of things happen?
While Mother taught me to not be offensive, I have learned over my life time to not take offense. Making a choice to not be offended takes practice and a good sense of self. When you know who you are and that the words of another have no power over you unless you give them power, you can just choose to be peaceful.
Some will say, “but what if it’s not true”, “don’t I need to defend myself”? Does what another say change what IS true? If someone states that you blue eyes are actually brown do you take offense? Does their statement change the color of your eyes?
Healing your own emotional addictions will free you from being offended. I hope you’ll give a listen to these radio shows.