I don’t know how many times each month someone comes to me for coaching and starts off by telling me whose fault it it that they are not living the life they really want. I am shocked by adults who still blame their parents for things done years ago. I generally ask, “when are you going to let that go and just live your life”?
When you stop blaming others and start taking responsibility for your life, magic happens. Looking at what has happened and getting the gift from it, the insight into your own self, empowers you to move forward. Staying in the past, holding onto the pain prevents you from moving forward. How can you develop your life and dreams with the past holding you fast in place? You can’t.
I realize that you might have had some very traumatic experiences, truth be told, most of us have. The key is what you decide to do with the experiences. Take a different look at the past. Ask yourself a few questions.
1. What does this experience tell me about myself that I want to know?
2. Does it remind me that I am now a powerful person able to make my own choices?
3. What inner strength can I claim through this experience?
4. How can I use this experience to inspire, motivate and move me forward?
By taking note of the messages of the past you can expand in your self awareness, seeing yourself as more powerful, more able to make different choices now.
Make peace with the past, live in the now and create the next now with love, positive expectation and personal power. You can do it.
Need help dealing with the past? Try a coaching session with me.